If your child wanted to marry a person who made he or she feel like your job makes you feel, how would you react?
I'm fascinated by people's careers, and specifically by their relationship to their careers. How did you two meet, I'll ask. Do you get along? Where do you see your relationship moving in the next five to ten years? What do you do for fun? What will you do if the fun ever stops?
People talk to me about their careers, sometimes spontaneously, and of course through my coaching work. The number of people who are in dysfunctional career relationships makes me proud of the word that I do; it's needed.
Are you in a dysfunctional career relationship? Would you stay in a romantic relationship that made you sick? Why are you willing to accept these types of feelings in your career but not in your heart and home?
Try answering the question that started this blog post. I recently posed it to a friend who answered, "Well, the way I feel about my job is that it's okay. I mean, it's not bad. It's okay." I asked if he'd be happy with his child marrying someone he felt just okay about. "Of course not." But my friend spends over forty hours a week in a career marriage that makes him feel just okay on a good day.
A couple of years ago a friend of mine passed way before his time. Then, two months later, my grandmother died. She was 96 years old and had been telling us she was ready to go for over a decade. I was struck by this juxtaposition of loss. We often say that life is short, and it is. But it is also very long. Too short to spend a minute in a bad relationship of any kind, including a career relationship. Too long to do the same.
Spend some time this week noticing the quality of your relationship with your career. Try to picture your career as a person and let the qualities of your career dictate how they appear and act toward you. What do you notice? Are you in love?
Perhaps it's time to find your dream career, because as the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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