My job as a career intuitive coach is to point to the “X” that is marking the spot of your life’s buried treasure—you know, the one you’re standing right next to while you look wildly at the sky? Then, I help you to notice the shovel you’re holding in your hands. Yes, it’s been there all along. Finally, my coaching sessions can be summarized in one word, “Dig.”
Read on for the last of the three questions I ask my clients to help them find their “X”, notice their shovel, and to begin to dig toward their buried treasure.
Question 3: How much time each day do you spend being instead of doing?
Our autonomic nervous system (the part of the central nervous system that is responsible for involuntary activities like digestion and heartbeat) is composed of two subsystems: the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. The parasympathetic nervous system is sometimes called our “rest and digest” system. When you experience a feeling of relaxation and peace, the parasympathetic nervous system is running the show. This is our “being” energy. Its colleague is the sympathetic nervous system, which is also know as our “fight or flight” system. This is the part of us that runs from danger or makes our heart beat faster when we are afraid. This is our “doing” energy.
Many modern people live in a sort of Sympathetic Psychosis, having lost their connection to the Parasympathetic Nervous System. These are the people who answer, “Busy,” when you ask them how they are doing. Their days are filled with activities without any space or time for relaxation. This has short and long-term impacts on health and happiness.
When I work with my career intuitive coaching clients, one thing I’ll often ask is how much time they spend each day on “being”. For many people, the answer is none. Imagine going to the gym and lifting weights, but only on your left side. Day after day you’d build the muscles of your left side and ignore the right. Doesn't that sound ridiculous? Can you envision how unbalanced this would look and feel? No one in their right mind would do this to their bodies, yet we are doing this to our nervous systems on a daily basis.
Create “being spaces” throughout your day.
Meditation is great, but folding the laundry can also become a being space if you focus on your breath while you do it. If you have children, make time to “just be” as a family. Accept the imperfections in these moments. If you set an intention to sit quietly for ten minutes and your house erupts in chaos, see what happens if you continue to sit and breathe without reacting to what’s going on around you.
By changing your answers to the three questions outlined in this series of blog posts, you can notice immediate improvements to your life, health, and wellness.
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