The quality of answers that we receive in life is inextricably connected to the quality of our questions. Often, we ask questions that are inside of the box that we are stuck in as we search for ways to escape that box. It's an exercise in futility; because the questions come from within our current confines, they are inherently worthless to our quest.
Imagine instead that you find a way to poke a hole in the side of your box and peak out toward the outside world. What types of questions might you then ask?
Here's an example of an inside-the-box question: Should I quit my job?
It's a perfectly reasonable question, but in my experience, people who ask it end up getting stuck on the question like a hamster on a wheel. Around and around they go between yes and no, weighing concerns like retirement benefits, health, family, money, and gaps on resumes. It's the kind of question that most people can talk themselves into and out of about 60 times in 60 seconds.
Here's a better question: WHY AM I HERE?
Now you're on to something. You are peeking through your peephole into the realm of everything that is possible in this world. Outside of your box, perhaps there's a job that doesn't even exist yet that you can create. Outside of your box are your deepest desires.
Once you begin to answer the question of why you are here, all other questions fall into place because now you have the proper context with which to answer them. Should you quit your job? Well, is that job why you're here? Have you survived everything that has sought to harm you, all of the risks that being human entails, in order to work in this job? Did your ancestors work three jobs and still go hungry during the Great Depression so that you can work in this job? Is this job your destiny?
Here are some more examples of ways that we can use our questions to move forward instead of to spin in circles:
Box Question: Should I break up with him/her?
Better Question: What is my worth?
Box Questions: What have I done to deserve this pain or illness? Why me?
Better Questions: What is this pain or illness trying to tell me? If I let it break me open a bit, what magical things might I find inside?
Box Question: When is that person going to stop disrespecting me?
Better Question: Do I want to die angry?
Box Question: How can I get out of this rut?
Better Question: Here, I must turn to the genius of Mary Oliver. She asks great questions.
As you embark on the adventure that we are calling 2016, may you ask and answer the great questions.
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Have a great Monday!
Happy Monday everyone! I hope you all had an amazing weekend. We had some actual spring-like weather in New England and the pollen tsunami seems to have subsided so we could go outside a bit and enjoy it.
Just like Mondays offer us a chance to begin again, I believe that the change of seasons offers a powerful opportunity to shift our energies toward our highest intentions. As I sat down to consider my summer goals, I had to check back on my New Year's resolutions. Yes, I know it's June, but that's the thing: I keep my resolutions close by and reflect on them a little bit each day. How? This year, I made a vision board with some of my student advisees. And now, six months later, I have a visual reminder sitting next to our kitchen table. I see it at breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
This year, my priorities are family, wellness, service, self-understanding, and writing. I'm happy to report that I am able to look at this vision board each day and feel a sense of accomplishment.
Yoga is still a part of my daily life and I have been making time to twist and smile almost every day. One of the many things that I love about my practice is how it ebbs and flows. There have been times this year when I felt the need to practice at home on my own. There have been a times when my mat felt like a life raft in a storm. Last week, my mat was a place for laughter and pride as I tried a new pose. What I've learned is that the lessons will come to me when I'm ready for them, but that it's not up to me to decide when I'm ready. My job is to show up.
I've also been reflecting daily on living within my truth and how this is naturally connected to being a force for good and creating a legacy that will help others.
I believe this with 100% of my being and it's something I'm trying to embody in my choices each day. I know so many people who seem disconnected from their vocational joy, and I feel so strongly that part of my path is to help people find that joy again.
As we prepare to shift into a new season, my intentions for this summer are to:
What are your summer intentions?
Have a great Monday!
I'm a huge believer in self-knowledge. My love of teen magazine quizzes transformed into more in-depth analysis as I got older. In the college success courses I teach, self-exploration is often one of the best parts of the class. I love going along for the ride as my students discover how they learn best and then create a study system based on their unique learning personality.
It's my belief that a lot of the pain and strife in the world comes from people who don't understand themselves so they try to fit their square peg self into a round hole life.
One of the biggest epiphanies of my life has been to recognize and accept my introversion. American culture is predominantly extroverted so introverts can often be made to feel weird or deficient. I've grown to accept my need to spend more time alone than with others. I know that it's okay to decline social invitations, even if I'm available, because I'd rather stay home. I've learned that being an introvert gives me a very unique view of the world that is positive and necessary.
Trying to be something we're not wastes precious energy that could be put toward more worthwhile endeavors. It's like writing your name with your non-dominant hand. Go ahead and try it. Notice how it feels, Then switch back to your other hand. See how easy that is? Knowing yourself leads to that kind of ease when you move through your world. It doesn't prevent pain, but it can prevent suffering.
Set aside some time on this Monday to learn about you. Here are two of my favorite self-assessments that you can complete in less than thirty minutes.
Click Here for Multiple Intelligences Self-Assessment
I'm a big fan of Howard Gardner. We could do the world a lot of good by expanding our definitions of intelligence. For the record, my two highest intelligences tend to be language and self.
Click Here for Human Metrics Jung Typology Test
This test will give you an idea of your Myers-Briggs type, which is based on Jungian theory. I am a proud INFJ which means that I am introverted, I prefer big pictures over details, I am led by my heart before my mind, and I like to complete things rather than leave them open to possibility. One of the things I like to remember is that these typologies are based on a spectrum. For example, the opposing preference across from the Feeling (F) is Thinking (T). I hover around 50/50 on this part of the typology, so I just barely prefer Feeling to Thinking. I probably use my Thinking preference quite a bit in my daily life. However, I'm more strongly Introverted (about 75%).
I'd love it if you report back. What are your highest forms of intelligence? What's your type?
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