Has anyone seen April? Is it just me or did it blow by super fast? I am a little surprised to see that I only read three books this month which is a little slow for me.
1. Embraced by the Light
I'm not ashamed to admit that I first heard about this book when I read that Kim Kardashian was planning to start a book club and that this would be her first selection. Intrigued, I added it to my to-read list. I found it for $1 at a used book store (my version of heaven on Earth).
If you are interested in spirituality and/or reincarnation, this is a great, quick read. Eadie tells the story of her near-death experiences. I found it to be authentic, interesting, and profound.
2. Salt to the Sea
I loved this book. It was the perfect combination of depth tied into a fast-moving plot. I love when I feel that tension as a reader where I want to read very fast to find out what happens but I also want to slow down and savor the great writing. This story revolves around five young people toward the end of WWII. It tells the story of the worst maritime disaster in history, something I'd never even heard of, I have to admit. Since I have some Polish ancestry, I was very intrigued by the Polish character. It's made me want to learn more about what happened in Poland during WWII. If you like historical fiction, you'll enjoy this book.
3. Beyond Codependency
Melody Beattie is a gift to the world and she can do no wrong in my book. In my estimation, about 75% of the world could benefit from her self-help teachings and her books on codependency. She gives lots of practical examples and offers small, specific suggestions to create positive changes and to build new habits. Love her and love this book.
That's my April list. What did you read this month?
After surviving the flu this month, I'm grateful to have read any books at all. As the snow falls outside on this last day or March (Are we getting three inches or two feet? No one seems to know.), I'm very much looking forward to spring.
1. These Broken Stars
I really enjoyed this book and once I started it was hard to stop. I am basically obsessed with anything set on a spaceship. This starts on a spaceship but ends on an alien planet. There's a compelling and interesting romance between the two main characters and a really intriguing mystery around the alien life forms they encounter. I feel like young adult writers are where it's at in sci-fi right now and I look forward to reading more from these authors.
2. A Thousand Pieces of You
As you can see, after my first book this month I discovered the fabulous YA section in my local library. I didn't love this one as much as These Broken Stars but I enjoyed the unique take on time travel and the multiverse. There's an interesting love story with an unexpected ending. Because of the complexity of the multiverse concept, there were a few sections that didn't make logical sense to me but the story was interesting enough that I was able to let that go and keep reading. If you like YA sci-fi, it's worth reading.
3. The Kybalion
Some of you may be familiar with the philosophy of, "As above, so below. As below, so above." This book describes its source, the Hermetic teachings. If you are interested in yoga and philosophy, you'll enjoy this book. There are some powerful ideas here about the nature of existence.
4. Dead Letters
I loved the premise of this book about a dead twin who maybe isn't dead after all. As a reminder, I really don't finish books that I don't enjoy and I did finish this one, but I didn't love it. Some of the dialogue is just completely out there and drew me out of the story. There's also not one likable character in the mix to root for. But it was a bit suspenseful and the desire to find out what had really happened kept me reading.
4. Wheels of Life
If you're interested in the chakra system, this is the definitive guide. But it's not for casual readers. This really is almost a textbook on the chakras. It's very dense with a ton of information, so prepare yourself for an endeavor. I read this to help me prepare for the chakra workshop I hosted this month, which was so much fun. If you're looking for a powerful system to help you transform your life for the better, I encourage you to learn about the chakras.
5. Astrology: The Next Step
I try to read at least one astrology book each month. I had seen this one recommended for students of astrology. This book is not for beginners. I'm sure that the author is able to apply her system to help her clients, but I found it to be utterly confusing and completely overwhelming.
6. The Hormone Cure
The gist of this book is that we have a crisis in women's health care in this country and in particular, no one is talking about the impact of aging on women's bodies, minds, and spirits. Dr. Gottfried's takes a holistic approach to hormones, health, nutrition, exercise, and sex. I love that she's not only a Harvard-trained doctor but also a yoga teacher. Lots of great recommendations here.
7. Every Hidden Thing
I loved this book, which I've seen described as a cross between Indiana Jones and Romeo and Juliet. Right? The main characters are relatable and interesting. The female protagonist is strong, logical, and ambitious. The setting and storyline around being the first modern people to discover dinosaur fossils is a lot of fun; imagine being the first person to dig up a T-Rex? This is a quick read that was satisfying and life-affirming.
What did you read this month? Comment below!
I get a lot of ideas. Ask my husband; he's had to listen to almost every one of them. I've learned that my ideas are both a blessing and a curse. I can't possibly act on all of them so I've learned to wait and see if they keep coming back to me. Some stick and some fade away.
The idea to start a podcast has been persistent in my mind and heart for the past few months. You might not know this but I originally majored in broadcast journalism when I was an undergrad at Syracuse University. My goal was to be a news anchor. For a variety of reasons, that wasn't my path, but I do still love communicating with people through public speaking, videos, and now through this podcast modality.
My goal for this initial episode is just to test the waters, to prototype my idea and see where it takes me. I had a lot of fun making this so that leads me to believe that I'm on the right track here. Fun is a great breadcrumb drawing us forward on our path, isn't it?
The topic of this week's podcast is perspective. How can changing our perspective help us change our lives?
Thanks for listening.
I'm very grateful that I created time this February to enjoy some great reads. As you can see, I'm always reading some combination of fiction and non-fiction (typically spirituality, psychology, or education). A new development this month is that I'm back in school (again!) to earn my master's in English and creative writing with a focus on non-fiction. Two of the books I read were for a very cool paper I'm working on this term where I compare a contemporary work to a classic. Okay enough about me, let's talk about these books!
1. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings
This is one of the books I selected for the major project in my current grad class in creative writing. The genre I'm exploring is memoir so this is the classic selection that I chose to compare to Love Warrior, the contemporary selection. To be fair to everyone involved, I hope no graduate student ever compares anything that I ever write to the work of Maya Angelou. This is truly a classic. Angelou not only tells her amazing story of survival in the face of racism, sexual assault, and teenage pregnancy, but she paints a vivid portrait of the American South. This is very much her story as a young, Black woman, but it is also the story of a time and a people. Just so, so rich. The secondary characters are round and real. Angelou's bright mind is both her curse and her way out, because isn't that always the way? If you haven't read this, I encourage you to put it on your reading bucket list.
2. Love Warrior
To begin, I love the work that Glennon Doyle Melton is doing in this world. It's brave and necessary. If I accomplish a tenth of what's she's done for compassion, feminism, young women, raising money for refugees, and overall humanity, I'll be in good shape. That being said, I didn't love Love Warrior. I think the story is important and I'm glad she told it. My beef is mostly with the writing style. Since I was reading this for a craft writing course, I had to keep my eye on the prize. Melton relies so heavily on telling over showing that it pulled me out of her story. There were places where she summarized huge swaths of her life that I felt could've been better illustrated via scenes. I know I'm in the minority here so I encourage you to read it and decide for yourself.
3. Meister Eckhart, from Whom God Hid Nothing: Sermons, Writings, and Sayings
I was starting to feel like I was coming across a quote by Meister Eckhart in almost everything that I read, so I decided to go to the source. This is a good starter collection of his main writings. Eckhart is a famous Christian mystic. If you're into this sort of thing, which I am, this is has a lot to offer the spiritual seeker.
4. The Only Astrology Book You'll Ever Need
I'm tearing through astrology books right now and since I just had my first reading with a real astrologer this is sure to continue. I love astrology. I love everything about it. #Obsessed This is not my favorite astrology book thus far. It felt a little bit fluffy in places as if it was mainly meant to appeal to the masses, which I think it was. If you are completely new to astrology and looking for a light overview, this will work for you. If you are looking to go a bit deeper, check out the other astrology books that I've reviewed.
5. Big Little Lies
If you know my reading style you know that I don't finish a book that I'm not enjoying. I usually give a book fifty pages before I quit. I first read BLL about a year ago and gave up during the first chapter. I couldn't bring myself to care about the rich lady in heels who'd sprained her ankle. But then I saw the previews for the HBO adaptation of the book and I decided to give it another try because I have a strict rule that I have to read the book before watching the show/movie. I'm glad I did. Once I got past the first chapter it was a quick read with a compelling murder mystery whose solution I didn't see coming until the very end. I've watched two episodes of the show so far and I'm enjoying that too. And for the record, yes, I now care about the rich lady in heels.
6. Astrology for the Soul
Holy mac and cheese Batman. Note to self: when reading astrology books on the night of a full moon that's also an eclipse, be prepared to open up your own personal Pandora's box. This book is focused specifically on the moon's nodes as a way to understand your purpose in this life and the tendencies you are meant to leave behind. It has set some major life shifts in place for me and I have a much deeper understanding of this really intricate balance between strengths and tendencies. My tendencies are the path of least resistance in my life, but taking that path is not what serves my highest good. When I step away from my tendencies (still honoring them, but stepping away), I am able to tap into my true strengths. This is a must-read for Earth School. :)
7. The Four Purposes of Life: Finding Meaning & Direction in a Changing World
You might have heard of Dan Millman's previous book, Way of the Peaceful Warrior. I've previously read his numerology book, The Life You Were Born to Live and loved it. This book is basically a short summary that combines some of his previous teachings. It would be a great gift for someone who's new to Millman's work but for me it was just okay because I'd encountered all of these ideas before in his previous books.
8. The Ramblers
This is a lovely novel about three thirty-somethings living and loving in Manhattan. It was a quick read and I connected with all three of the main characters. I first saw this book in an airport bookstore and added it to my to-read list. I'm glad it came back into my life. I'm also intrigued by the continued work of fellow sober lady Aidan Rowley. I expect continued great things from her.
9. Carve the Mark
Roth is the author of the Divergent series, which I started and gave up on, so I wasn't sure how I'd feel about this. But it got great reviews so I gave it a go because I love sci-fi. I'm glad that I did. There's definitely a combination of the Hunger Games and Zodiac series at play here. I love the story behind the universe where this is set and the two main characters are compelling. I'm excited for the next installment.
10. From Intellect to Intuition
There is a whole history behind the author of this book, Alice Bailey, and her organization, Lucis Publishing, that I encourage you to research for yourself if you're into spirituality and meditation. I was drawn to this book because I struggle with overthinking and I want to learn to become more connected to my intuition. The premise behind this book is that we all need to do that, on a global level, as we enter the Aquarian Age. It talks a great deal about Patanjali's writings on meditation. Where the book didn't work for me is that Bailey's tone comes across as harsh at times, almost like she's just had it with all of us and wishes we'd get our act together. While I found it interesting and I'm glad I explored Bailey's work directly, I don't think I'll be reading anything else of hers in the near future. Again, there's no substitute for direct experience so if you're intrigued by her ideas, definitely check them out and decide for yourself.
That's a wrap for February. Happy March!
Is it just me or did January feel LOOOOOONG? The good news is this long month allowed me to read ten books.
1. Designing Your Life
I read this one for Women in Higher Education (higher education friends-click here to subscribe to our badass higher ed feminist newsletter). I've been doing career and academic coaching/advising for a decade, give or take, but this book definitely gave me some new insights. Their advice to prototype or test your career interests before making a commitment is really important. There are several activities in the book that you can complete to help you zone in on your next steps to design your ideal life. If you are unhappy at work or unclear about your future, this one's a worthwhile investment.
2. The Atlantis Gene
I'll give The Atlantis Gene the award for weirdest book of the month. First off, I want to say that this book and its sequels are all huge success stories and they are being made into movies. That being said, this is wicked out there (as we say in Massachusetts) and the storyline required a constant suspension of disbelief as I followed the plot that includes time travel, portals, Nazis, and Tibetan monks. I still tore through it in a couple of days but I don't think I'll be reading any of the sequels. Might watch the movie though.
3. Understanding the Enneagram
If you are into personal growth and development books I think you'll really love the Enneagram which is basically an ancient system of psychology. The core idea here is that people are constantly changing; it's impossible to stay the same. The question is, do you want to be evolving or devolving? Based on your answers to a short questionnaire you are assigned a number from one to nine. I'm a five. The system then outlines the ways that you typically devolve or evolve. I found this incredibly accurate, interesting, and highly motivating. I want to evolve y'all!
4. Ink & Bone
If there's a book about books or libraries I'm probably going to read it. This book was enjoyable but I didn't feel super connected to the teenage characters. It held my interest and the writing is smart. It's part of a trilogy that I don't think I'll continue but this was still a solid read.
5. The Chemist
This book started out so strong. I love technothrillers and there aren't enough written by female authors. But then Meyer became hyper-focused on a very dreary and somewhat lame romance instead of her main character's more fun and evil qualities. I finished it quickly but wish it had held the tight energy of the first few chapters.
6. The Codex
I'm on a quest for the next Michael Crichton (i.e. Sphere, Congo, The Andromeda Strain). This was a quick and light read that I finished in a few days. I don't think I could tell you the names of any of the main characters though. Fun but no emotional connection here for me.
7. Astrology and Consciousness
An astrologer that I follow online recommended this as one of the astrology books that most influenced her. Olesky does a really good job here of making astrology empowering and practical. As with any good astrology book he goes much deeper than sun signs and really approaches astrology from a spiritual and psychological perspective. Hobbyist astrologers might not want to get this intense but if you love astrology like I do, this is worth a read.
8. Lucky Boy
I have a full review on this forthcoming on a literary website so I won't say much here except that this is the rare book that contains a ferocious plot, characters you won't be able to let go, and a heartbreaking theme that will stay with you long after you're done reading. Timely and important.
9. Spiritual Astrology
Spiller's writing is very accessible and there are a lot of great sections here. I love how she weaves in past lives. I think her handling of the personal planets was a bit stronger than the social and transpersonal planets. She goes into lunar and solar eclipses which was awesome but some of the explanations on how to determine aspects was confusing. Definitely a worthwhile perspective but not my favorite astrology book.
10. The River at Night
This suspense novel is getting a lot of press and the premise is really strong: a group of middle-age women (shit, am I middle-age?) goes on a whitewater rafting trip in Northern Maine. Danger and death ensues. The setting here, a river that is mostly untouched by human hands, becomes a character in itself. You'll finish this one fast. While I definitely recommend it, I felt like the narrative arc was slightly off with the ending feeling a bit rushed. But if you're looking for a great suspense lead with strong female characters, this is one to check out.
Happy reading and happy February!
This one's a little late due to the holidays. Despite the busy season, I managed to read six books. #nottooshabby
This is a tough one for me because I'm quite sure that Crosstalk's author, Connie Willis, is an incredibly talented writer. I truly appreciate that she tried something new and took some risks here. But this book made me carsick and I wasn't in a car when I read it. Crosstalk explores our society's hyperconnectedness problem and it's written in such a way that you are experiencing the same level of hyperconnectedness as the characters, who eventually are able to communicate telepathically. The entire book (over 500 pages) is frantic. It was like listening to someone who talks a mile a minute and doesn't pause for a breath. I'm sure there are some who loved it, but this one wasn't for me.
2. Sex Death Enlightenment: A True Story
This was one of my 5-star reads this month. Oh, how I loved this book. This is the kind of book that can change the world. It was recommended to me by my workshop leader at Kripalu, Joan Borysenko, who knows Mark Matousek personally. I don't know how I hadn't heard of it before. It's major. A spiritual classic that I couldn't put down. Matousek has a book on how to write memoirs coming out in May and I can't wait. In the meantime, read this book.
3. The Three
This definitely falls into the weird category. The premise drew me in: four planes crash on the same day. One person survives each crash. Cool, right? It kept my attention and was a quick read, but I wasn't moved or satisfied with the ending. There was a lot of potential here but I didn't feel like the book lived up to it. But if you love weird books, you might still want to check it out.
4. Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom
This is another recommendation born of my Kripalu retreat and workshop with Joan Borysenko. I'm still happily working my way through that reading list. I had a funny experience with Anam Cara. I read a few chapters and found it really beautiful and peaceful writing, but I didn't feel compelled to continue. I placed it on a bookshelf in my library and thought I was done with it. But about a week later, it kept popping into my head, asking to be finished. There is a great lesson here about learning to notice and flow with the energy of the universe. I believe that faith isn't about believing in something you can't see, but rather about noticing all of the things that aren't visible to the logical mind. This book harnesses that brilliant Celtic wisdom and makes you believe in the power of magic.
5. Black Moon
Obsessed. Completely obsessed. This is the third book in the Zodiac series. I loved the first two and this only deepened my obsession. I am basically now trying to build a Zodiac-themed room in my house so I can pretend to be Rho, the heroine of the series. Thirteen Rising, the final book, doesn't come out until August, so I'm just realizing now as I write this that my new life goal will be to score an advanced reader copy before then...if the stars align of course.
This probably seems like a fairly random read. I found this book because I searched for books similar to the Michael Crichton genre. It was basically absurd but also awesome. Just pure fun and totally engaging. If you're willing to suspend disbelief and you enjoy the techno-thriller genre, I think you'll love this book. I've got some more James Rollins books on order from the library so expect to see more of him in my reviews.
That's it for me this month. What was the best book you read in December?
1. All the Missing Girls
A novel of suspense that personifies the Faulkner quote, “The past isn’t dead. It isn’t even past.”
Two women are missing; ten years lie between their disappearances. In a small town like Cooley Ridge, almost no one thinks this is a coincidence, especially not Nicolette “Nic” Farrell, a woman connected, like the hub of a wheel, to all the missing girls. When Nic returns home to assist with the sale of her aging father’s home, this wheel begins to turn, only backward.
Miranda (The Safest Lies, 2016, etc.) takes a huge risk by flash-forwarding two weeks past the second woman’s disappearance. Our unreliable narrator, short on sleep and paranoid for good reason, then leads us back in time, day by day, to the night that Annaleise Carter went missing. In the process, she also unravels the story of her best friend, Corinne Prescott, who vanished from the local fair ten years earlier. Everyone is a suspect, but what makes this a particularly compelling read is that we don’t know if crimes have even been committed. Did harm come to Annaleise and Corinne at the hands of another, or did they simply decide to leave the small town that had failed them in countless ways?
Miranda’s risk pays off. This is a ferocious read, the suspense doubled by the clever time twist. Compelling sub-plots, including an idealized fiancé and a less than lucid father, add complexity and humanity to Nic’s journey. While you will be unable to let go of this story until its satisfying completion, there are moments when the backward narrative can be confusing. Readers might find themselves re-reading a few sections to orient themselves in time. The benefits outweigh the costs however, as this novel is worthy, not only of a Gone Girl comparison, but of attention in its own right. For while it is primarily a story of suspense, it is also a beautiful and nuanced reflection on how we lose, and eventually find, our girls.
A page-turning and emotionally distinctive twist on the missing woman genre.
2. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
There was a moment early on in my reading of this book that I texted my friend: "I am loving Big Magic." The first few chapters were really strong and I love Gilbert's writing style; it's as if we are having a conversation. She also tells some great stories about the gifts and challenges of living a creative life.
About halfway through some of the fire burned out for me but I am definitely glad I read this book. She focuses a lot on the creative art of writing (no surprise there, she's a writer) so I'm not sure how this would read for a different type of artist.
I read this book as part of a Yoga Book Club that I hosted and the general consensus was that people thought it was motivating and inspiring.
3. The Woman in Cabin 10
You are probably catching on to my love of suspense novels. This was a good one. I loved the setting: a luxury cruise ship. Our narrator is a total wreck and my head hurt just reading through her hangovers. If you are looking for a book that will grab you from the start that you won't be able to put down, this fits the bill.
4. The Prophet
I have a daily spiritual reader that quoted Gibran so I felt like I was being directed to (finally) read this spiritual classic. I was having a really shitty day that day, election-induced, and was just reaching out for any ray of hope I could find. Is this poetry or narrative? Both, I think. Either way, it's remarkable and so incredibly timely. I felt at peace when we were finished.
5. The Forgetting Time
You guys. This book is something else. While I've read a lot about reincarnation (and you know, experienced it probably 80 times or so I'm guessing) I've never seen it done like this in a novel. I was expecting something gimmicky but this wasn't like that at all. The author ties in the story of two mothers and a dying doctor in such a way that she made this feel completely real and beautifully human. I couldn't put it down AND it has stuck with me for days. I'm still thinking about it. That's how I distinguish a good book from a great one.
6. Lily and the Octopus
I'm so glad that there are people out there who write and publish books like this. Okay full disclosure some of you are going to feel like this book is weird. I am weird so this book felt normal. Or maybe I'm normal and you are weird. Anyway, I loved this book. I was very luck to have read back-to-back, five-star novels this month. The reading gods were smiling on me.
This book is about a dog and her owner. It's a love story that will break your heart in the best way. You know that kind of sad that's very particularly a hopeful sad? The kind of sad that makes you feel more alive, not less. This book is about that.
If you like this book please let me know because then I will know you are also one of the weird-normal people and I think we should stick together.
7. We Are the Ants
My first disclaimer here is that if I don't like a book I won't finish it, so I did like this book. I just didn't love it. The story is important and centers around a young, gay man who is struggling with the loss of his boyfriend and incessant bullying at school. However, I thought this was going to be more of a sci-fi book and I really don't feel like it had that element at all. It also ran a little bit long and I felt like there was some excess here that could've been cut in order to tighten the story. But again, it was an interesting read and I'm happy that this character was brought to life to have his story told.
1. 2 A.M. at the Cat's Pajamas
I started out October with this little gem that I found on the bargain table at B & N. Check out my review in this prior blog post on My Favorite Things.
2. Zodiac (Zodiac #1)
I'm kind of an astrology buff. In the past year I've gone past sun signs and started to explore moon signs, rising signs, and full natal charts. It's a lot of fun to have astrology in mind when talking to people, although asking them, "What's your sign?" still comes off as a 70s pickup line.
I saw this book on the YA table at B & N and the title obviously caught my eye. It's a sci-fi novel about a young woman who is unexpectedly asked to lead her people. It was a really fun and engaging read. I love the storyline and the way that the author weaves the Zodiac signs into the story adds another layer. This is the first book in what I thought was a trilogy but that I've since learned is a tetralogy (four books).
3. The Wonder
I haven't read Donoghue's popular Room because the premise is just too intense for me. But this cover and story drew me in. The book centers around a nurse who is called to rural Ireland to look after a young girl who hasn't eaten in months. Is she a miracle or a fraud? Beautiful, atmospheric writing with a plot that pulled me along until a satisfying ending.
4. Today Will Be Different
Okay I need a major disclaimer before I write this. I think Maria Semple is brilliant and fabulous and I liked this book. I finished it in less than a day. But. Oh I'm so sorry that there's a but. BUT...there were things missing for me. I couldn't help but compare this to Where'd You Go, Bernadette, a book that I absolutely adored. I never felt myself rooting for the main character in Today Will Be Different like I did with Bernadette. I hope you'll give both a try and decide for yourself.
5. It Ends with Us
I saw this book on Mix and Match Mama's October Book Review and her description really piqued my interest. I've never read Colleen Hoover before but I know she's wildly popular. I'm glad I gave this a try. What first appeared to be a light romance turned into something really profound and complex. There's an important story here that needs to be told and talked about.
6. The Perfect Girl
I am such a sucker for suspense in the vein of Gone Girl and Girl on the Train. One of my favorite things in the world is to get sucked into a book and nothing else does that quite like a suspense novel. I can definitely recommend this to anyone who likes this genre. The story centers around a teenage girl prodigy with a complicated past. Her mother is murdered and everyone's a suspect. It's a good whodunit with some nuance and a nice twist at the end.
7. Wandering Star (Zodiac #2)
Since I'm late to the party on the Zodiac series I was able to start the second installment soon after finishing the first. I liked this just as much as Zodiac. I'm more attached to these characters and feeling like December 6th, the release date for Black Moon, can't come soon enough. If you like sci-fi, definitely check this one out.
Thanks for reading about my reading. :) Your book recommendations are much appreciated! Comment below or Find Me On Facebook.
I have missed my blog and wanted to write something fun, so here are a few of my favorite things!
1. Tulsi Tea
It's Vata season. Vata, is a concept from the science of life, Ayurveda. My dosha, or constitution, is a Vata type. This time of year, when the weather cools off and the winds start to blow, is Vata time. That means my Vata can get a little...spinny, for lack of a better word.
Tulsi Tea is a great way to balance Vata. Right now I'm drinking the Ginger (decaf) and the Pomegranate (caf) that I purchased at my local health food store. I drink a few cups a day and it helps to pacify my Vata and slow down the spin.
Want to learn your dosha? Take this quiz.
I read a ton of non-fiction around higher education and spirituality, but there's nothing like finding a novel that you can't put down.
A couple of months ago I sat down with all of my journals, notebooks, and post-it notes and realized I needed a new system. I have a great planner where I keep tasks and goals, but I was in need of something to write down ideas, great quotes, or any other thoughts that I didn't want to lose track of. Several of my students had recommended Workflowy so I decided to give it a try.
Workflowy is a free list-making system. You can use it on your computer at www.workflowy.com or download the app. Right now, I'm taking an online course on stress management and I use Workflowy to keep all of my notes on the course. It's a great resource to keep everything in one place, yet separate. And did I mention that it's free?
4. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
This is my current solo binge. My husband and I are watching Quantico at night but I need my girl time too. This show is the total package: hilarious, smart, bittersweet, and relevant. I love it. When you watch "The Sexy Gettin' Ready" song, please let me know.
My job as a career intuitive coach is to point to the “X” that is marking the spot of your life’s buried treasure—you know, the one you’re standing right next to while you look wildly at the sky? Then, I help you to notice the shovel you’re holding in your hands. Yes, it’s been there all along. Finally, my coaching sessions can be summarized in one word, “Dig.”
Read on for the last of the three questions I ask my clients to help them find their “X”, notice their shovel, and to begin to dig toward their buried treasure.
Question 3: How much time each day do you spend being instead of doing?
Our autonomic nervous system (the part of the central nervous system that is responsible for involuntary activities like digestion and heartbeat) is composed of two subsystems: the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems. The parasympathetic nervous system is sometimes called our “rest and digest” system. When you experience a feeling of relaxation and peace, the parasympathetic nervous system is running the show. This is our “being” energy. Its colleague is the sympathetic nervous system, which is also know as our “fight or flight” system. This is the part of us that runs from danger or makes our heart beat faster when we are afraid. This is our “doing” energy.
Many modern people live in a sort of Sympathetic Psychosis, having lost their connection to the Parasympathetic Nervous System. These are the people who answer, “Busy,” when you ask them how they are doing. Their days are filled with activities without any space or time for relaxation. This has short and long-term impacts on health and happiness.
When I work with my career intuitive coaching clients, one thing I’ll often ask is how much time they spend each day on “being”. For many people, the answer is none. Imagine going to the gym and lifting weights, but only on your left side. Day after day you’d build the muscles of your left side and ignore the right. Doesn't that sound ridiculous? Can you envision how unbalanced this would look and feel? No one in their right mind would do this to their bodies, yet we are doing this to our nervous systems on a daily basis.
Create “being spaces” throughout your day.
Meditation is great, but folding the laundry can also become a being space if you focus on your breath while you do it. If you have children, make time to “just be” as a family. Accept the imperfections in these moments. If you set an intention to sit quietly for ten minutes and your house erupts in chaos, see what happens if you continue to sit and breathe without reacting to what’s going on around you.
By changing your answers to the three questions outlined in this series of blog posts, you can notice immediate improvements to your life, health, and wellness.
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